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Brendan brings patience and compassion to the discussion of the most intimate things. He is encouraging in the practice of a fulfilling sex life and an empowering force for a personal journey of self-discovery and intimate connection. With careful thought and careful observation Brendan creates a space of empowerment.

I couldn’t recommend Evolution Institution anymore wholeheartedly to others if I tried!

Who knew there was so much that one could learn – and enjoy learning – about how to relate and create intimacy with your partner. There seem to be so few places in life to ask questions about this topic – we don’t do that well in our society – to find out more information, to find out what other people have already learned. But the workshop was the perfect environment. The content was engaging and helpful, we practiced together and with Brendan and his assistant volunteers, we were able to bring home some great ways of relating that has opened up an already great relationship into something even better. Brendan was masterful in how he taught and coached and in sharing the wisdom he’s learned over the years of helping others. I couldn’t recommend Evolution Institution workshops anymore wholeheartedly to others if I tried!

I’ve tapped into a greater dimension of self and a greater depth of heart and it’s having a ripple effect on all areas of my life!

I’ve had the pleasure of working with Brendan during one of the hugest growth phases of my life. His energy is warm and welcoming, and his style is edgy and bold. Brendan helped me step into my own personal power as a woman and wear the radiance and boldness of my sexuality with confidence. Through my sessions with Brendan I’ve tapped into a greater dimension of self and a greater depth of heart and it’s having a ripple effect on all areas of my life! I have so much gratitude for this amazing man. Thank you for profoundly impacting my life, Brendan.

This work has also helped me in other relationships not only with my partner, so its just been so valuable.

When I decided to reach out to Brendan I was completely lost and feeling so hopeless. My partner and I were at a point of not knowing how to move forward. I was unable to feel and be intimate and I couldn’t figure out why or what to do about it. I saw Brendan as someone who would truly get what I was going through. I was looking for a teacher and confidant who could help me learn what I desperately needed to know. I realised that we learn almost nothing growing up about relationship dynamics, intimacy or communication. Brendan clearly had a great understanding of this and his confidence felt so reassuring. Working together was really raw for me and what I needed, he held space for hard and deep questions to be asked. No-one had ever held space for me like this before. No wonder so many of us are suffering in our relationships, we all need a Brendan in our lives, to show the reality of relationships and the realness of human intimacy. Straight away I noticed a shift in how I was thinking and feeling. My partner and I did the work and made a promise to let everything unfold in its own time. I learnt to trust the tools which Brendan gave us and over time and commitment, our relationship has become so much more than I ever imagined. And yes the Intimacy is out of this world. The beautiful thing is that’s its our own personal intimacy that really connects us on a deeper level. This is totally new to me and opens us up to experience even more love together. Thank you Brendan for helping me know what it is to be in a loving connected relationship. This work has also helped me in other relationships not only with my partner, so its just been so valuable.

He really guided me to where I needed to go.

There was something about his eyes and the way he looked into mine that gave such a sense of comfortability. I had never opened up with anyone the way I did with Brendan yesterday. His confidence was so contagious and rewarding to see. He really guided me to where I needed to go. I haven’t stopped ranting and raving about him and what he has brought out in me. I will forever think back at this meeting as one of the big leaps in my sensual journey. To be completely honest it felt more like a deep conversation with a great friend than a session.

Just a quick note to say thank you

Just a quick note to say thank you for the more aware, more caring and tender husband I received at home last night. He was very excited about his experience and shared some of what he learned, it was great. I told him it felt like he had done a personal development workshop in which he expanded his consciousness, not just learned techniques. I look forward to doing the same so we can create a stronger relationship together. Thank you thank you!

Wonderful experience!

I booked a body work session with Brendan. It was a wonderful experience I’ve never had before. Very special and exotic. I love massage and I give massage to people also. Brendan has combined different types of massage and created his unique one which brings his clients a unique experience. He is intelligent and knowledgeable and enthusiastic, he knows exactly what you want and professionally work on your needs. Everything he chose, the oil, the music and the add-ons are fabulous, I’ve never felt so orgasmic. I strongly recommend Brendan, he won’t let you down.

I put what I learned at the first workshop to use and got great results

I put what I learned at the first workshop to use and got great results… my girlfriend LOVED it! I can’t wait to see what else I learn from the next one.

Brendan’s workshops and coaching transformed our marriage.

Brendan’s workshops and coaching transformed our marriage. 2 years ago we were on the verge of divorce. One of our core struggles was power and control in our sexual relationship. I had fears about being overpowered which caused me to take control, which in turn made him feel powerless and unable to get his needs met. I also had needs that I was not communicating, which left me feeling dissatisfied. Needless to say, we had sex less and less, and when we did it typically ended badly. This caused my husband to spend time masturbating to porn on the internet, which left me feeling rejected and abandoned (and angry). A friend told us about the fun workshops run by Evolution Institution, (back when it was called Sensual Living) and we decided to enter Brendan’s Sexuality Bootcamp as we fondly called it. We were determined to break through this pattern, regardless of the outcome of our relationship.

After my husband undertook sex and relationship coaching with Brendan, he said he learned more about what women want in 6 coaching sessions than he had his entire life. He is almost 60. At first I expected him to practice his newly learned techniques on me, but then he explained his main takeaway was to help me express and better understand what MY needs were so that he could satisfy them! Thanks to this mindset and the hands-on techniques he learned, we are achieving better and more powerful orgasms together and I feel heard and appreciated in a way I never had before.

The next breakthrough was when we attended the Kinky Explorations + Lets Get Naughty workshop with 6 other couples. At first I was terrified. This was exactly the place I was stuck in our relationship, and I was worried I would have to do things that were uncomfortable while we explored our fantasies in front of strangers! In fact, it was quite liberating to share our fears and stories with others, as well as practice simple and fun techniques for telling each other our fantasies and learning how to act them out. I discovered my husband did not harbor scary dominating fantasies which I had feared, and he in turn, discovered a more sexually adventurous and open me than he ever imagined. This combined with me attending Awaken Your Inner Enchantress allowed me to feel more comfortable in my body and expressing my needs. I found the role plays particularly helpful in learning to do this.

I am happy to say that our Sexuality Boot camp has had a huge impact on our relationship. We have more sex, it is much more pleasurable and now when the struggle for control rears its ugly head we work past it. I am much more open to pleasing my husband and meeting his needs and he mine. And we’re still together! I know several of my friends who have experienced your work have had similar results. I will be forever indebted to you for the tremendous love, care and commitment you put into the work you do in helping couples and individuals embrace their sexuality in a healthy, open way. Thank you Brendan! xox

An excellent workshop, well structured, and full of practical tips for the uninitiated.

An excellent workshop, well structured, and full of practical tips for the uninitiated.

Brendan paced the mini-course well, covering a lot of ground while allowing time for group contributions.

The Masterclass tells you all you need to know about Tantric massage, simply and clearly. One of the best practical workshops I’ve attended. I left the workshop feeling blissful and knowing exactly how to do it in the future without second-guessing myself!
Thank you Brendan. x

I can’t emphasize enough what a thrill it was.

I can’t emphasize enough what a thrill it was to have prolonged intercourse AND to have my girlfriend orgasm as a result of our coupling. When we engaged I lasted as long as I ever have with my girlfriend and could have even lasted longer. I could never have accomplished this without your lessons, so thank you Brendan.

My relationship with my wife just keeps getting better!

Before I came to see Brendan, I was very unhappy with my relationship with my wife of over 30 years. I was unhappy with her sexual responsiveness and felt constantly criticized by her. I would collapse with the tone of her voice or even an expression could send me into a tailspin. My wife was no happier and had suggested separation.

All our 30 plus years of married life I tried to be the “good husband” by being the “nice guy.” I tried so very hard to please her thinking that my tactic of trying to make everything ok would work. Needless to say, I failed most of the time. When she was unhappy or angry with me I would shut down, pout or disappear for a few days until she came and tried to patch things up with some make-up sex.

The results have been nothing short of remarkable. I have learned that what my wife needed in order to be a woman was for me to be a man. Once I started changing how I was with my wife, she challenged me to my core. I had no idea of how deeply I could be cut and still stand there and stay engaged with her while she pushed me to find out if I was really going to be a man she could count on and trust. She needed to know that she could be all sides of herself, the good, bad and ugly to see if I really cared about her and not just “the goodies.”

I stayed with her for three weeks of the most intense emotional roller coaster I have ever been on. The ugly turned awesome and back again. After three weeks of receiving her on all levels, from all parts of herself, she collapsed in my arms, totally in love with me. Since then we have been like teenagers in love. I didn’t realize how many times I could still have sex in a single day.

I regret all the years that I could have been a man for her and given her the pleasure of being a woman. But, no matter. What is important are the wonderful changes that I have experience in my work with Brendan – I feel strong and centered in myself and my relationship with my wife just keeps getting better.

40 minutes of non-stop fucking!

The “control regimen” that we have worked on was so successful that she came twice before I even did. It was a solid 40 minutes of non-stop fucking. She had trouble falling asleep afterwards because her body was having pleasure after-shocks for an hour after we finished. She couldn’t stop talking about how great it was.

I wouldn’t recommend!

I’m a 23 year old trans man and I reached out to Brendan for sex coaching because I don’t have a lot of irl experience. Right away he started trying to pressure me to have an over the phone consultation with him. I was like “What?! We can just do it by email, or by texting. Afterward he made the excuse that he’s dyslexic. I can really tell. For a dyslexic he likes to write essays it seems.

We continued to have some back and forward exchange and eventually he tried to joke and say.
“Sometimes in life you’ve just got to be a man and pick up the god damn phone! lol ;P”
Really bad joke. It’s not about “being a man and picking up the phone”, yikes!

Next, he asked me: “Where is the anxiety coming from when it comes to talking to someone over the phone? I’m not trying to be insensitive or anything I just really don’t get it.”

He clearly thinks he’s some high and mighty wise man, that can cure people’s mental illnesses by trying to rationalise them and saying that they don’t exist.

I bet he would have also told me to just “be happy” because I’m depressed. People should stop trying to “convince” me that I should speak to them on the phone, bc it ain’t happening!

Finally! Someone who tells it how it is, without all the fluff!

Brendan’s piercing clarity, depth of knowledge and gentle heart can lead any practitioner right to the heart of their being.

His embodiment of the holistic path and his understanding of sacred sexuality coupled with a no-bull-shit-attitude puts him in a unique position in the community of modern-day practitioners.

I have a new appreciation for my body, myself and my innate femininity.

I came to Brendan after a few bad break-ups, wanting to break the cycle and learn from past mistakes. He helped me uncover my fear of intimacy and gave me the tools to move past it. Body confidence has also been a huge issue for me, and we worked on that too. I never used to feel comfortable naked, with myself or even around long-term partners, but now I just want to be naked all the time! I have a new appreciation for my body, myself and my innate femininity.

Brendan was the first person who really heard me.

I was trapped in a glass bubble looking out at the world. I could see how it could be, I could see how others could live happy, fulfilling lives. But I couldn’t make it happen for myself. Nobody noticed my suffering. Brendan was the first person who really heard me. He looked into the glass bubble at me and said metaphorically, “Hello there, do you want to come out here with me?”. He kindly and gently led me out of that bubble and now I am in a position to help others find their way out. I am happier and freer than I’ve been in the last 20 years of my life. Thank you Brendan.

Best investment of time and money I ever made.

When I first considered getting coached through Evolution Institution I was sceptical, I didn’t know what to expect and I wasn’t sure if it was worth it. But Brendan flawed me with his wealth of knowledge and overall competence as a coach, needless to say he put my scepticism to rest real quick.

I can’t believe no one ever gave me this information about what women want before. I went home and practiced seduction techniques with my partner, and finally was able to help her orgasm, and we had more passionate sex than we’ve ever had. Best investment of time and money I ever made.

Very professional and enlightening.

After struggling with boundaries, communication and assertiveness in previous relationships…. I now feel safe, confident and empowered when involved intimately. The presence, knowledge, trust, kindness and empathy during my coaching sessions with Brendan was life-changing. Breathing, mindfulness and body awareness has become a daily practice.

I am engaged and having better sex than I had in my 20’s!

Until I met Brendan, I thought I would never experience love again. Years and years of sexless dull relationships left me hopeless. I was no longer 21. My body did not move the way it used to. I didn’t want to do sessions over Skype. I wanted to see someone in person. Brendan offered intensive work so I came for a week. The work was hard and the breakthroughs were incredible. By the end of the week, I knew I could find a relationship again AND I knew what kind of relationship I wanted. Within two weeks of returning home, I had my first date. Three years later, I am engaged and having better sex than I had in my 20’s!

My Sex life and Sensual life will never be the same.

Before my first session with Brendan, I was an average lover with not much-staying power. He has taught me how to have staaaaayyying power throughout my love-making experience. Secondly, I have learned the art of making love to my lover… Slowly, methodically, with the deepest of breath… we are both appreciative. Where were you 10 years ago. My Sex life and Sensual life will never be the same.

Money well spent!

I don’t think I’ve ever felt so free to be open and honest about myself as I am when I work with and talk to Brendan! Our sessions have enabled me to transform my life and my relationships in a way that I did not think was possible. I gain much valuable insight and self-awareness through our sessions and would recommend him without hesitation to both couples and individuals who want to get more out of their lives and relationships!

Our sex life now is much more adventurous!

After an exciting two years, my partner and I fell into a routine. Saturday night date night to the movies or an upmarket restaurant. Sex after the date – same routine. My BFF paid for our coaching with Brendan as a birthday present for me. Things were awkward at first. We weren’t used to talking to others about our sex life. By Saturday night we were talking about everything. We went to a BDSM and Fetish club that he recommended and tried a few things we had only fantasised about. Sunday night we were exhausted but still excited by what we experienced. Our sex life now is much more adventurous! And that was just the first session… we can’t wait till the next!

One of the best and most fun workshops I have been to – and I have been to a lot!

One of the best and most fun workshops I have been to – and I have been to a lot! Brendan is extremely knowledgeable about sexology and human behaviour and the workshop gave me a wealth of actionable ideas to take into the bedroom.

My wife has become an orgasm machine!

Since we worked with Brendan, my wife is an orgasm machine. I can barely keep up with her!

I feel like I’m walking on air right now.

Just finished a coaching session with Brendan, and I feel like I’m walking on air right now. Like I took a big, cleansing breath and washed away years of blockages and shame around my sexuality. I remember what it is like to feel alive and sensual and I can’t wait to flirt with the world…

I just love the way he brings his wisdom; very authentic and with lots of humour.

Brendan is such a powerful man. With his presence and divine masculine energy he lights up the room. He definitely knows how to tap into the energy of the people attending his workshops. And I just love the way he brings his wisdom; very authentic and with lots of humour. The questions Brendan asked me during our coaching sessions were spot on. If you’re looking for someone who can help you find balance within the healthy masculine and feminine, then Brendan is definitely the right person to connect with.

Can’t recommend Brendan’s coaching services enough

I have worked with Brendan as my sex coach on and off for over 18 months and the thing I have noticed most is the degree of progress I have made with the issues I was dealing with (anxiety, communication and understanding how to manage my feelings of anger and irritation). I have heard so many people say that this level of coaching seems too expensive but I always say that the amount of experience Brendan has, the sheer range of professional tools and understanding he has as well as his willingness to challenge and really support you through the often difficult process of coaching has made a big difference to me and my life much more quickly than I see in friends and colleagues who are trying similar, perhaps cheaper, options. Not that speed is always the goal, but I think it is vital to see the real difference that Brendan’s level of experience brings to the therapeutic process and that an hour of time seems to me to be often twice as valuable as someone with less breath of knowledge and skills.

Brendan is amazing at what he does.

Brendan is amazing at what he does. Thanks to the work we did with him, Tanya and I have a sex life again, and it is way better than it was before we had our little girl! We’re having so much more fun together and I’m feeling more in love than I ever thought possible. We can’t thank Brendan enough for helping us to re-light our fire!

My partner and I have a sex life again!

As a coach Brendan is direct and makes it easy to talk about the hard bits. Thanks to our work with him, my husband and I have a sex life again – and it is hotter than it ever was before the baby! We have more fun together and feel closer than we ever have before. We can’t thank Brendan enough for helping us to re-light our fire!

Couldn’t be happier

I have had bodywork sessions by Brendan, multiple times! His technique is so soothing and relaxing, yet still firm and therapeutic. I’ve experienced a variety of massage and bodywork techniques in my time and Brendan’s is truly unique and superior in so many ways. His treatment table is fantastic for pregnant bellies as well, the relief I felt in my lower back felt truly like a gift from heaven. He has a gentle calming nature and his energy is soooo good for a pregnant mummy to be.
After my coaching sessions with Brendan, my relationship is so much better than it ever was before and we couldn’t be happier. I highly recommend Brendan for any relationship or sexual issues, before and after your baby. Enjoy!

If you’re standing on the precipice of getting coaching, my advice to you is take the plunge, your future self will thank you for it!

I appreciate the bodywork and coaching I got from Brendan, he is amazing at what he does and always seems to know what I need next. I really don’t know how he pulls everything together but I don’t need to. I just know Brendan has changed me and that he is an amazing human being. No matter where my journey takes me next, I will never forget the positive impact he has had on my life.

Really helped us to light a bonfire in our bedroom!

We have been together for 10 years and were in a routine. We still enjoyed sex, but it wasn’t mind-blowing like at the beginning of our relationship. Close friends recommended one of Brendan’s kink workshops and the field trip to a fetish club. Best recommendation ever! The role-play workshop with field trip was a blast! We now have a ‘dressing up box’ hidden in the wardrobe with all the bits needed to transform into pirates, distressed damsels, police and prisoner, French maid and master of the house. The field trip introduced us to a whole new world. We can’t wait for the next event and field trip. Brendan has helped us to light a bonfire in our bedroom. We cannot thank him enough!

I experienced orgasms so far beyond anything I have ever felt before.

This past Sunday I experienced orgasms so far beyond anything I have ever felt that afterwards I said to my husband (and myself) – “I’m sure I could have gone through my whole life and died without ever feeling like this!” Beyond the physical, the delight was also in being completely, selfishly absorbed in my own pleasure – no guilt or reservations. So a big THANKS!!!!!!!

My experience the other day left me tingling with excitement.

After having spent months and years in talk therapy, both individual and group (which I gave up on years ago), I was a little skeptical that my work with Brendan would bear much fruit, especially in the short run. But now, I begin to appreciate the powerful forces he has taught me how to tap into, and what a direct path they can open into healing. My experience the other day left me tingling with excitement, and feeling an unfamiliar sense of hope and optimism. I had thought that I had pretty much banished the feeling of shame that was instilled in me growing up, but now I see that I had merely bandaged it up with a tight dressing, along with a bunch of good things that shame had attached itself to. Pretty amazing. And I feel that I am just getting started with this process, and with what he can help me discover.

My previous premature ejaculation problem has miraculously disappeared!!

I recently got involved with an amazing girl and the sexual connection has been amazing. Making love was a completely different experience!! We connected and my previous premature ejaculation problem has miraculously disappeared!! Thanks so much.

I love this guy!

I love this guy! Brendan continues to help me evolve into the beautiful vibrant sexy irresistible being I know I already AM inside – so much gratitude!

Fantastic coaching services

Brendan is a fantastic coach. He’s easy to talk with, an excellent listener, empathetic and organized. He assigned me homework (that was simple, challenging, and do-able) and provided space to check-in, which helped me achieve my goals. Investing in his assistance helped me work on communication, consent, stress, play, pleasure, and so much more. It’s been very rewarding for me as an individual as well as my 16-year partnership. Thank you, Brendan!

My experience with Brendan’s coaching has made a profound difference in my life.

My experience with Brendan’s coaching has made a profound difference in my life. I have allowed myself to explore and to awaken parts of my erotic self that had been repressed or blocked for most of my life. I have been able to really acknowledge and celebrate my sexuality and to face up to my inhibitions and feelings of guilt about my sexual desires and arousals. For the first time I felt my sexuality was fully accepted, even the parts that I had thought of as ‘kinky’ and ‘nasty’. My opening has had very positive implications for my sex life. I have gained skills in connecting with women and have much greater control over my ejaculation and sexual responsiveness.

I felt my whole body electrified, nurtured by the Divine Energy that creates and maintains life.

I don’t know how to explain love, but I am able to recognise it. My experience with sensual bodywork enveloped me profoundly, upon feeling the love of Brendan’s touch and the connection with Brendan’s sensitivity.
Wowww!

I felt the life-force fibrillating every cell in my body, a profound relaxation of the mind, in the surrender of simply feeling…
I felt a wonderful divine presence. I breathed intensely, consciously, and it’s impossible to describe in words the sensations.

The opening I felt helped me to release through tears, through laughter, in deep compassion 🙂 It was as if infinity was bathing my whole being…
I am truly grateful, as we’re all in such need of this love, this relaxation, that came to me through the intelligence of the life-force, in the flood of hormonal activation, in the contraction and release of the muscles, through a pleasure that is intrinsic to my being.
I felt my whole body electrified, nurtured by the Divine Energy that creates and maintains life.
I feel gifted by cosmic intelligence in physical form.
Pure poetry!

Thank you Brendan

The ‘now’ has never been so beautiful.

Thank you Brendan for your dedication in allowing me to experience myself in a way that bordered on ‘spiritual’. I cannot praise enough your ability to connect and provide an environment of trust.

The ‘now’ has never been so beautiful.

Thank you for helping me find it. Love, and lots of it.

I literally think Brendan saved my life, and showed me the possibility of a new one.

Brendan is an incredibly insightful and intelligent counsellor, sexologist and coach who has the ability to see beyond the therapeutic process to the individual and their unique situation. I felt very lucky to have found him, and he came highly recommended by multiple friends in the medical community. He deeply considers each circumstance and the best way forward. He has given me both practical and emotional advice that has been life-changing. He knows when to call a spade a spade, which is hugely refreshing when other therapists will often disappear behind the theory or the process. He is also an inspiring man who obviously has a rich life experience to bring to the job. He often starts a session, with “I’ve been thinking,” which gives you an insight into his level of dedication to the job. I strongly recommend Brendan to anyone I know who is experiencing issues. I was in a very difficult abusive marriage with complex issues, we had seen multiple marriage counsellors, and he was the end of the road for me. I literally think he saved my life, and showed me the possibility of a new one.

Brendan helps you feel comfortable in your own skin.

There is this serene and grounded manner about Brendan that helps you feel comfortable in your own skin, because he is. He has the most charismatic mix of educated professional academic in his expert field with sexy vampire energy; so down to earth, you feel like you could whisper all your secrets to him without judgement, and you definitely can. And this is where the magic happens, in trusting this incredibly talented and heart-centred man to guide and support you through your own healing or learning experience. Brendan ‘walked’ with me and some dark aspects of myself that I wanted to learn to love. His healing space feels like he does; safe, supportive and kind of sexy. Trusting Brendan’s exercises, practices, and attention, I was able to transmute some engulfing needy, insecure feelings into real beauty and self-love. You will walk out stronger, energetically cleaner and proud that you made the effort to gift yourself a session with Brendan.

Finally! Success!

I believe I have successfully graduated. My wife and I went away over the weekend and I rocked her world. Finally! Success! She said she had waves of orgasm during intercourse that she had never experienced. She noted how engaged and present I was during our lovemaking. She can hardly wait to do it again. Thank you Brendan so much for all your help!

It was a profound and powerful experience

It was a profound and powerful experience; I heard the sounds of thousands of years of women experiencing sexual pleasure; like the mantras of our very core. I felt my femaleness and its energy like I have never felt before.

I left with an incredible sense of empowerment! I highly recommend the “Awaken Your Inner Enchantress” workshop for anyone wanting to become confident with their inner sex goddess.