Brendan’s workshops and coaching transformed our marriage. 2 years ago we were on the verge of divorce. One of our core struggles was power and control in our sexual relationship. I had fears about being overpowered which caused me to take control, which in turn made him feel powerless and unable to get his needs met. I also had needs that I was not communicating, which left me feeling dissatisfied. Needless to say, we had sex less and less, and when we did it typically ended badly. This caused my husband to spend time masturbating to porn on the internet, which left me feeling rejected and abandoned (and angry). A friend told us about the fun workshops run by Evolution Institution, (back when it was called Sensual Living) and we decided to enter Brendan’s Sexuality Bootcamp as we fondly called it. We were determined to break through this pattern, regardless of the outcome of our relationship.
After my husband undertook sex and relationship coaching with Brendan, he said he learned more about what women want in 6 coaching sessions than he had his entire life. He is almost 60. At first I expected him to practice his newly learned techniques on me, but then he explained his main takeaway was to help me express and better understand what MY needs were so that he could satisfy them! Thanks to this mindset and the hands-on techniques he learned, we are achieving better and more powerful orgasms together and I feel heard and appreciated in a way I never had before.
The next breakthrough was when we attended the Kinky Explorations + Lets Get Naughty workshop with 6 other couples. At first I was terrified. This was exactly the place I was stuck in our relationship, and I was worried I would have to do things that were uncomfortable while we explored our fantasies in front of strangers! In fact, it was quite liberating to share our fears and stories with others, as well as practice simple and fun techniques for telling each other our fantasies and learning how to act them out. I discovered my husband did not harbor scary dominating fantasies which I had feared, and he in turn, discovered a more sexually adventurous and open me than he ever imagined. This combined with me attending Awaken Your Inner Enchantress allowed me to feel more comfortable in my body and expressing my needs. I found the role plays particularly helpful in learning to do this.
I am happy to say that our Sexuality Boot camp has had a huge impact on our relationship. We have more sex, it is much more pleasurable and now when the struggle for control rears its ugly head we work past it. I am much more open to pleasing my husband and meeting his needs and he mine. And we’re still together! I know several of my friends who have experienced your work have had similar results. I will be forever indebted to you for the tremendous love, care and commitment you put into the work you do in helping couples and individuals embrace their sexuality in a healthy, open way. Thank you Brendan! xox