Brendan is amazing at what he does.

Brendan is amazing at what he does. Thanks to the work we did with him, Tanya and I have a sex life again, and it is way better than it was before we had our little girl! We’re having so much more fun together and I’m feeling more in love than I ever thought possible. We can’t thank Brendan enough for helping us to re-light our fire!

I literally think Brendan saved my life, and showed me the possibility of a new one.

Brendan is an incredibly insightful and intelligent counsellor, sexologist and coach who has the ability to see beyond the therapeutic process to the individual and their unique situation. I felt very lucky to have found him, and he came highly recommended by multiple friends in the medical community. He deeply considers each circumstance and the best way forward. He has given me both practical and emotional advice that has been life-changing. He knows when to call a spade a spade, which is hugely refreshing when other therapists will often disappear behind the theory or the process. He is also an inspiring man who obviously has a rich life experience to bring to the job. He often starts a session, with “I’ve been thinking,” which gives you an insight into his level of dedication to the job. I strongly recommend Brendan to anyone I know who is experiencing issues. I was in a very difficult abusive marriage with complex issues, we had seen multiple marriage counsellors, and he was the end of the road for me. I literally think he saved my life, and showed me the possibility of a new one.

I am engaged and having better sex than I had in my 20’s!

Until I met Brendan, I thought I would never experience love again. Years and years of sexless dull relationships left me hopeless. I was no longer 21. My body did not move the way it used to. I didn’t want to do sessions over Skype. I wanted to see someone in person. Brendan offered intensive work so I came for a week. The work was hard and the breakthroughs were incredible. By the end of the week, I knew I could find a relationship again AND I knew what kind of relationship I wanted. Within two weeks of returning home, I had my first date. Three years later, I am engaged and having better sex than I had in my 20’s!

I couldn’t recommend Evolution Institution anymore wholeheartedly to others if I tried!

Who knew there was so much that one could learn – and enjoy learning – about how to relate and create intimacy with your partner. There seem to be so few places in life to ask questions about this topic – we don’t do that well in our society – to find out more information, to find out what other people have already learned. But the workshop was the perfect environment. The content was engaging and helpful, we practiced together and with Brendan and his assistant volunteers, we were able to bring home some great ways of relating that has opened up an already great relationship into something even better. Brendan was masterful in how he taught and coached and in sharing the wisdom he’s learned over the years of helping others. I couldn’t recommend Evolution Institution workshops anymore wholeheartedly to others if I tried!

Our whole family has benefited from knowing Brendan.

Our son was having difficulty with friendships at school along with displaying poor behaviour in class. We could see that lack of self-confidence was part of his problem. My husband and I first met Brendan years ago when we reached out for some help with our relationship. We have both stayed in touch with Brendan since and I knew he was the right person for Isaac to talk to about school. Brendan listened to Isaac and quickly built a rapport with him. Brendan supported us as parents as well, by being available to us to talk through issues as they arose and offering advice. After building up Isaac’s confidence and belief in himself and his capabilities, he returned to the “happy” person he deserves to be. We are very pleased that he is back to his happy self. Thank you, Brendan. Our whole family has benefited from knowing you.

       

Really saved our marriage!

My wife and I started seeing Brendan about 8 months ago, and I can’t thank Brendan enough for helping Sabrina overcome her post-natal depression and giving me my wife back. I have known her for 10 years and have never seen her as happy as this. Bless you Brendan! Thank you for everything you’ve done for us.

Can’t recommend Brendan’s coaching services enough

I have worked with Brendan as my sex coach on and off for over 18 months and the thing I have noticed most is the degree of progress I have made with the issues I was dealing with (anxiety, communication and understanding how to manage my feelings of anger and irritation). I have heard so many people say that this level of coaching seems too expensive but I always say that the amount of experience Brendan has, the sheer range of professional tools and understanding he has as well as his willingness to challenge and really support you through the often difficult process of coaching has made a big difference to me and my life much more quickly than I see in friends and colleagues who are trying similar, perhaps cheaper, options. Not that speed is always the goal, but I think it is vital to see the real difference that Brendan’s level of experience brings to the therapeutic process and that an hour of time seems to me to be often twice as valuable as someone with less breath of knowledge and skills.

I would recommend Brendan’s services to anyone who asks me.

I first met Brendan about 2 or 3 years ago during a very difficult time in my life. I was at a crossroads in my life. I was feeling very depressed. I was always confused as to why life was so hard and what was the meaning of it all. Big questions! This one particular day, I literally just happened to be talking to a friend of mine and she suggested I see Brendan. After reading Brendan’s website I wondered if this guy was doing so much, could he really be good at anything? But then I thought maybe he must know something that I don’t and I wanted some answers.

Anyway, I ended up making the appointment. And It was exactly what I needed. Brendan taught me how everything is interconnected, and also taught me all about the different personalities of people and how we all learn, behave and react differently to different things. This helped me to understand my partner better and ultimately save our marriage.

Over the years I have been able to use all of the techniques that Brendan has taught me. I set a goal and see myself achieving it. With this, I have ran a marathon, bought my home, set up a successful business, created a happy marriage and have two beautiful children.

Most recently, I was having trouble with my daughter’s school teacher. She was being a bully to the kids and as it was my first experience with primary school for my kids, I wasn’t sure what to do. I contacted Brendan who was able to see me. Brendan gave his time to me generously. He didn’t rush me. We went over so many things in our time. Most importantly, I realised that the courage was within me to confront the school and ultimately have our daughter moved to a new class, where she has been extremely happy ever since.

Brendan has taught me to trust my inner compass. That the answers are within me if I just sit and listen. He will always tell me the truth and what is needed to be heard without sugar-coating it. His perspective on things is a blessing. I would recommend his services to anyone who asks me.

Great experience and well worth it.

Since my wife and I had our sessions with Brendan, our relationship with each other has improved and we are working through things more positively. Great experience and well worth it.

Just a quick note to say thank you

Just a quick note to say thank you for the more aware, more caring and tender husband I received at home last night. He was very excited about his experience and shared some of what he learned, it was great. I told him it felt like he had done a personal development workshop in which he expanded his consciousness, not just learned techniques. I look forward to doing the same so we can create a stronger relationship together. Thank you thank you!

This work has also helped me in other relationships not only with my partner, so its just been so valuable.

When I decided to reach out to Brendan I was completely lost and feeling so hopeless. My partner and I were at a point of not knowing how to move forward. I was unable to feel and be intimate and I couldn’t figure out why or what to do about it. I saw Brendan as someone who would truly get what I was going through. I was looking for a teacher and confidant who could help me learn what I desperately needed to know. I realised that we learn almost nothing growing up about relationship dynamics, intimacy or communication. Brendan clearly had a great understanding of this and his confidence felt so reassuring. Working together was really raw for me and what I needed, he held space for hard and deep questions to be asked. No-one had ever held space for me like this before. No wonder so many of us are suffering in our relationships, we all need a Brendan in our lives, to show the reality of relationships and the realness of human intimacy. Straight away I noticed a shift in how I was thinking and feeling. My partner and I did the work and made a promise to let everything unfold in its own time. I learnt to trust the tools which Brendan gave us and over time and commitment, our relationship has become so much more than I ever imagined. And yes the Intimacy is out of this world. The beautiful thing is that’s its our own personal intimacy that really connects us on a deeper level. This is totally new to me and opens us up to experience even more love together. Thank you Brendan for helping me know what it is to be in a loving connected relationship. This work has also helped me in other relationships not only with my partner, so its just been so valuable.

I wanted to give you the absolutely wonderful news that WE ARE MARRIED and I COULDN’T BE HAPPIER!!!

This relationship is everything I possibly could have imagined and more… That feeling of love intertwined with contentment has been taken to an even higher level!

I can depend upon him… This man wants to take care of me thru all life’s ups & downs. I don’t have to be anybody but myself. If I come home from a stressful day at work or if I feel exhausted with things going on in life, he has a ready joke to lighten the mood or a warm hug to help me relax. He is sensitive to what I am going thru. He wants to listen or offer advice if it will ease a situation or dilemma. He just wants to be where I’m at… Brendan, apart from you, until him the only other person who genuinely cared about how my day went was my mum!

We work together… Cook together, clean together and relax together. We shop together and laugh together and it feels totally natural… We just flow together.

He is kind, caring, positive and optimistic. He is strong yet easygoing. He makes me want to give my all and be my best… Not just for him, but in life. And most importantly, HE LOVES ME!!! This comfortable heartfelt truly deep love, that people say you will know when you experience it… Is real. My family and friends say they have never seen me this happy & relaxed.

Brendan, when I embarked on this journey with you, and you gave me guidance and advice to make me strong and confident to seek the love of my life, I could not have fathomed that someone this perfect for me even existed. You still pop into my head at times, “What would Brendan say to do?”

Thank you Brendan, for being an amazing coach, and a pivotal & positive force to help me create the perfect relationship… My heartfelt and eternal gratitude to you, My Friend, for priming me and getting me ready to live the life I’ve been waiting for!!!

       

When I hit problems in my relationship Brendan was my beacon.

When I hit problems in my relationship Brendan was my beacon. As my coach he immediately created and held a safe space for me to unveil myself. I laugh and cry and see only love and compassion in his eyes. I feel empowered knowing I have Brendan in my life. His work is humble and profound.

My relationship with my wife just keeps getting better!

Before I came to see Brendan, I was very unhappy with my relationship with my wife of over 30 years. I was unhappy with her sexual responsiveness and felt constantly criticized by her. I would collapse with the tone of her voice or even an expression could send me into a tailspin. My wife was no happier and had suggested separation.

All our 30 plus years of married life I tried to be the “good husband” by being the “nice guy.” I tried so very hard to please her thinking that my tactic of trying to make everything ok would work. Needless to say, I failed most of the time. When she was unhappy or angry with me I would shut down, pout or disappear for a few days until she came and tried to patch things up with some make-up sex.

The results have been nothing short of remarkable. I have learned that what my wife needed in order to be a woman was for me to be a man. Once I started changing how I was with my wife, she challenged me to my core. I had no idea of how deeply I could be cut and still stand there and stay engaged with her while she pushed me to find out if I was really going to be a man she could count on and trust. She needed to know that she could be all sides of herself, the good, bad and ugly to see if I really cared about her and not just “the goodies.”

I stayed with her for three weeks of the most intense emotional roller coaster I have ever been on. The ugly turned awesome and back again. After three weeks of receiving her on all levels, from all parts of herself, she collapsed in my arms, totally in love with me. Since then we have been like teenagers in love. I didn’t realize how many times I could still have sex in a single day.

I regret all the years that I could have been a man for her and given her the pleasure of being a woman. But, no matter. What is important are the wonderful changes that I have experience in my work with Brendan – I feel strong and centered in myself and my relationship with my wife just keeps getting better.

My wife has become an orgasm machine!

Since we worked with Brendan, my wife is an orgasm machine. I can barely keep up with her!

Highly recommend coaching with Brendan!

I’m so grateful to have met Brendan! He is highly insightful, easy to talk to, and open-minded. Every relationship (as well as single folks) can benefit from a little unbiased, professional guidance. The best part is you feel like you’re just chatting with a very wise friend. Highly recommend coaching with Brendan!

Was absolutely worth doing!

My partner and I both are aware of how different we are and most of the time are able to appreciate these differences. We discuss things more now than we ever did before relationship coaching with Brendan. I don’t hold back any feelings that I might have but I am more careful of how I tell him about my feelings. I realise that he doesn’t always understand the way I feel and I am comfortable with that now.

I feel great and It means that I forgot about the past as much as possible and started looking forward to spending my present and future with him.

Brendan’s workshops and coaching transformed our marriage.

Brendan’s workshops and coaching transformed our marriage. 2 years ago we were on the verge of divorce. One of our core struggles was power and control in our sexual relationship. I had fears about being overpowered which caused me to take control, which in turn made him feel powerless and unable to get his needs met. I also had needs that I was not communicating, which left me feeling dissatisfied. Needless to say, we had sex less and less, and when we did it typically ended badly. This caused my husband to spend time masturbating to porn on the internet, which left me feeling rejected and abandoned (and angry). A friend told us about the fun workshops run by Evolution Institution, (back when it was called Sensual Living) and we decided to enter Brendan’s Sexuality Bootcamp as we fondly called it. We were determined to break through this pattern, regardless of the outcome of our relationship.

After my husband undertook sex and relationship coaching with Brendan, he said he learned more about what women want in 6 coaching sessions than he had his entire life. He is almost 60. At first I expected him to practice his newly learned techniques on me, but then he explained his main takeaway was to help me express and better understand what MY needs were so that he could satisfy them! Thanks to this mindset and the hands-on techniques he learned, we are achieving better and more powerful orgasms together and I feel heard and appreciated in a way I never had before.

The next breakthrough was when we attended the Kinky Explorations + Lets Get Naughty workshop with 6 other couples. At first I was terrified. This was exactly the place I was stuck in our relationship, and I was worried I would have to do things that were uncomfortable while we explored our fantasies in front of strangers! In fact, it was quite liberating to share our fears and stories with others, as well as practice simple and fun techniques for telling each other our fantasies and learning how to act them out. I discovered my husband did not harbor scary dominating fantasies which I had feared, and he in turn, discovered a more sexually adventurous and open me than he ever imagined. This combined with me attending Awaken Your Inner Enchantress allowed me to feel more comfortable in my body and expressing my needs. I found the role plays particularly helpful in learning to do this.

I am happy to say that our Sexuality Boot camp has had a huge impact on our relationship. We have more sex, it is much more pleasurable and now when the struggle for control rears its ugly head we work past it. I am much more open to pleasing my husband and meeting his needs and he mine. And we’re still together! I know several of my friends who have experienced your work have had similar results. I will be forever indebted to you for the tremendous love, care and commitment you put into the work you do in helping couples and individuals embrace their sexuality in a healthy, open way. Thank you Brendan! xox

Thank you Brendan for reminding us how we can always love each other no matter what obstacles are in our way and that we make a great team.

I’m really appreciative of all the time and effort Brendan has dedicated to myself and my lovely wife, he has definitely given us the strength to understand a lot more about ourselves as well as others. It must feel good to have the ability to change people’s mindsets to a state of well-being and happiness – I know it would for me.

Thank you Brendan for reminding us how we can always love each other no matter what obstacles are in our way and that we make a great team. (Thanks to my darling wife).

My partner and I have a sex life again!

As a coach Brendan is direct and makes it easy to talk about the hard bits. Thanks to our work with him, my husband and I have a sex life again – and it is hotter than it ever was before the baby! We have more fun together and feel closer than we ever have before. We can’t thank Brendan enough for helping us to re-light our fire!

Money well spent!

I don’t think I’ve ever felt so free to be open and honest about myself as I am when I work with and talk to Brendan! Our sessions have enabled me to transform my life and my relationships in a way that I did not think was possible. I gain much valuable insight and self-awareness through our sessions and would recommend him without hesitation to both couples and individuals who want to get more out of their lives and relationships!

Fantastic coaching services

Brendan is a fantastic coach. He’s easy to talk with, an excellent listener, empathetic and organized. He assigned me homework (that was simple, challenging, and do-able) and provided space to check-in, which helped me achieve my goals. Investing in his assistance helped me work on communication, consent, stress, play, pleasure, and so much more. It’s been very rewarding for me as an individual as well as my 16-year partnership. Thank you, Brendan!

Couldn’t be happier

I have had bodywork sessions by Brendan, multiple times! His technique is so soothing and relaxing, yet still firm and therapeutic. I’ve experienced a variety of massage and bodywork techniques in my time and Brendan’s is truly unique and superior in so many ways. His treatment table is fantastic for pregnant bellies as well, the relief I felt in my lower back felt truly like a gift from heaven. He has a gentle calming nature and his energy is soooo good for a pregnant mummy to be.
After my coaching sessions with Brendan, my relationship is so much better than it ever was before and we couldn’t be happier. I highly recommend Brendan for any relationship or sexual issues, before and after your baby. Enjoy!

I found my coaching sessions with Brendan really life-changing.

I found my coaching sessions with Brendan really life-changing. He helped me approach relationships in a different, more constructive way and my confidence levels in all areas of my life have really increased. Not only have I now found a happy relationship, but by improving my communication skills I’ve also been able to make positive changes at work and progress my career.

I deeply thank you Brendan, if only there were more people in the world like you.

I was really sheltered and naive growing up as a Jehovah’s Witness

When I lost my faith and challenged the church, they denounced me and spread gossip about me, pressuring me to stay silent when I spoke out. And my family even excommunicated me for no good reason.

Although I was grateful for being free of all the controlling influences and brainwashing of the church, I was heavily dealing with separation anxiety and kind of felt like I had jumped out of the frying pan and into the fire! Nothing made sense anymore and the dating world was really scary. I was taken advantage of a few times, I almost totally gave up on love and humanity as a whole, but Brendan made me feel that I wasn’t alone, and he really helped me turn everything around.

You taught me so many things and really empowered me to make more positive changes in my life, now I’m in a healthy relationship and moving forward in a positive direction.

From the bottom of my heart, I deeply thank you Brendan, if only there were more people in the world like you.

       

You should definitely give this a go

I have been working with Brendan Hadley for about 8 months, both as part of a couple and on my own. His warm, enthusiastic and open nature makes him very easy to talk to, and his intellectual rigour and heavyweight background means that I have absolute confidence in his ability to manage some of the more challenging emotional issues I have had to deal with. Brendan provides insightful guidance as well as a truly non-judgmental and welcoming space to be heard in.

With Brendan’s guidance I feel more confident and am now successfully moving forward with my ideal man.

Despite being in a field that often gives counseling to others on maintaining their relationships, I actually had no idea about how to manage my own.

This does sound like the plot to a terrible romantic comedy but it’s actually been the case. I was nervous about putting myself out there due to my conservative values but Brendan was remarkably insightful and helped me understand myself as an individual who would navigate a relationship with another individual for a meaningful and lasting connection.

His incredible coaching taught me about standards I should keep and compromises I should make in order to find and sustain a relationship that makes me feel truly wonderful.

I have felt more confident about navigating this process with his guidance and am now successfully moving forward with my ideal man.